《情感暴力》内容简介
全球图书销量超100万册、德国资深心理健康畅销书作家,德国国家科学记者奖获得者——维尔纳·巴滕斯权威之作
本书详细阐述了“情感暴力”在家庭、校园、职场、权力体系、医患关系中的各种表现形式,探索其背后的机制,并初步讨论了其生理后果,最后提出解决办法。作者引用了颇多科学研究,却又深入浅出,对理解原生家庭、校园霸凌、职场关系、医患纠纷等问题都有助益。
推荐1:识别何为情感暴力
当家人对你情感勒索,当伴侣试图对你进行情感操控,当同事刻意忽略你的存在,当朋友成了能量吸血鬼,吸光了你的正面能量……小心,你正受到「情感暴力」的精神虐待!
什么是情感暴力?
他只是偶尔会对我冷暴力,父母只是为了我好,上司只是想让我加班,医生说什么都是为了我的健康着想。这些每天都在上演的生活,包含了各种会伤害我们心灵和身体的情感暴力。
远离情感暴力的第一步是识别自己是否正在遭遇情感暴力。
推荐2:找到远离情感暴力的方法,学会保护自己,拒绝被漠视、被贬低、被嘲讽
到处都可能遭侮辱和忽视,但到处也都可以防卫。实施情感暴力的人并不会在意识到自己的行为之后主动做出改变。遭遇情感暴力的人,需要自救。因为长期遭受情感暴力的人,生理上的免疫力也会降低,增加患病风险。解决心理问题,是保证身心健康的基础。
推荐3:原生家庭、亲密关系PUA、职场压迫、校园霸凌、医患关系、边缘化,等多种常见的热门心理学问题都有涉及。
作者简介
维尔纳·巴腾斯毕业于德国弗赖堡大学医学专业,师从诺贝尔生理医学奖获得者乔治斯·克勒。
《南德意志报》科学版主编,是德国最有影响力的健康类作者之一。
他的书《是什么维系伴侣关系》《幸福医学》《身体幸福》曾数月位列《明镜》畅销书排行榜。
《情感暴力》一书为德国亚马逊心理学类畅销作品。
"Emotional Violence" content introduction
Worldwide sales of more than 1 million books, the German senior bestselling mental health author, the German National Science Journalist Award winner - Werner Bartens authoritative work
This book elaborates on the various manifestations of emotional violence in the family, campus, workplace, power system, and doctor-patient relationship, explores the mechanisms behind it, discusses its physiological consequences, and finally proposes solutions. The author cites a lot of scientific research, but it is also simple, helpful to understand the family of origin, school bullying, workplace relations, doctor-patient disputes and other issues.
Recommendation # 1: Identify emotional violence
When a family member blackmails you emotionally, when a partner tries to manipulate you emotionally, when a colleague deliberately ignores your existence, when a friend becomes an energy vampire, sucking up all your positive energy... Be careful, you are being mentally abused by "emotional violence"!
What is emotional violence?
He is only occasionally violent to me, my parents just for my good, the boss just want me to work overtime, the doctor said everything for the sake of my health. These daily acts of life involve all kinds of emotional violence that can harm our minds and bodies.
The first step to staying away from emotional violence is to identify if you are experiencing emotional violence.
Recommendation # 2: Find ways to stay away from emotional violence, learn to protect yourself, and refuse to be ignored, belittled, or mocked
Everywhere can be insulted and ignored, but everywhere can be defended. People who commit emotional violence do not actively change their behavior once they become aware of it. People who are experiencing emotional violence need to help themselves. Because people who suffer from emotional violence for a long time, the physiological immunity will also be reduced, increasing the risk of disease. Solving psychological problems is the basis of ensuring physical and mental health.
Recommendation 3: Family of origin, intimate relationship PUA, workplace oppression, school bullying, doctor-patient relationship, marginalization, and many other common hot psychological issues are involved.
About the author
Werner Bartens graduated in medicine from the University of Freiburg, Germany, where he studied with Georges Koehler, winner of the Nobel Prize in Physiology and Medicine.
He is editor-in-chief of the science section of Suddeutsche Zeitung and one of the most influential health writers in Germany.
His books "What Keeps a Relationship Together", "Happiness Medicine" and "Body Happiness" were on Der Spiegel's bestseller list for several months.
Emotional Violence is a bestseller in the psychology category on Amazon in Germany.