《人生脚本》内容简介
本书是沟通分析创始人伯恩最重要的著作,讲述人如何在年幼的时候“规划”了自己的人生脚本,又如何践行“失败者”的角色。伯恩与其他精神分析流派的不同主张是,心理治疗不应该仅仅是使人好受一点或是更适应一点,而是要彻底改变原有的脚本命运,活出真正成功和幸福的人生。他不仅帮助人们认识到自己的失败脚本,也帮助人们改写脚本,不再受其无形的约束。伯恩的写作风格和他的治疗一样,风趣幽默、又极犀利,使人欲罢不能。
你新认识了某个人。你说“你好”。对方也说“你好”。接下来你会说什么?你又会做什么?你会匆匆离去吗?你会主动交流吗?还只是等着?还是什么?
好吧,在本书中,艾瑞克·伯恩说,无论你接下来做了什么,都取决于你的“脚本”。你现在如何回应他人取决于你小时候做出了关于自己、关于他人以及关于世界的怎样的情感决定。脚本是关于你打算如何度过一生的计划。你制订这个计划时还只是个小孩子,它基于你当时对世界的了解。早年决定由你做出,在人生的后续阶段,你也可以根据需要改变这些决定,即改变你的脚本。
脚本是了解人类命运的重要概念。脚本可以解释为什么一个人终其一生都在努力,却仍旧无法感到满足;也可以解释另一个人为什么在人生中只是做了点小事,却感到相当欢喜。或者,为什么一个人很会与人打交道,而另一个人却备感孤独;为什么一个人在年老时适应良好,而另一个人却感到想跳下桥头,终结生命。
脚本的内涵相当深厚。本书是一本经典著作,因为脚本这个概念第一次在心理学及沟通分析领域被提出。
作者简介
艾瑞克·伯恩(EricBerne),美国心理学家,早年学习精神分析,20世纪50年代创立沟通分析流派(TransactionalAnalysis,简称TA)。其沟通分析法在此后的几十年中,在心理治疗、教育、管理以及各个与人际关系密切相关的工作领域里,产生了积极而深远的影响。
"Life Script" content introduction
This is the most important book written by Byrne, the founder of communication analysis, about how people "plan" their own life script at a young age, and how to practice the role of "loser". What Bourne and other schools of psychoanalysis argue is that psychotherapy should not just be about making people feel better or more comfortable, but about radically changing the original scripted destiny and living a truly successful and happy life. He not only helps people recognize their own failed scripts, but also helps people rewrite them and no longer be bound by their invisible constraints. Mr. Byrne's writing style, like his therapy, is funny, sharp and addictive.
You met someone new. You say "hello". The other person says "hello" back. What would you say next? What would you do? Will you hurry away? Will you initiate communication? Or just wait? Or what?
Well, in this book, Eric Byrne says that whatever you do next depends on your "script." How you respond to others now depends on what emotional decisions you made as a child about yourself, about others, and about the world. A script is a plan of how you intend to spend your life. You made this plan when you were just a child, and it was based on what you knew about the world at that time. Early decisions are yours to make, and later in life you can also change those decisions as needed, that is, change your script.
Scripting is an important concept for understanding human destiny. Scripts can explain why a person has worked hard all his life and still can't feel satisfied. It can also explain why another person feels quite happy when he does only a small thing in life. Or why one person is good with people while the other feels lonely. Why is it that one person is well adjusted in old age while another feels the urge to jump off a bridge and end his life?
The content of the script is quite profound. This book is a classic because the concept of scripting was first proposed in the field of psychology and communication analysis.
About the author
EricBerne (EricBerne), an American psychologist, studied psychoanalysis in his early years and founded the school of Communication Analysis (TA) in the 1950s. In the following decades, his communication analysis has had a positive and profound impact in psychotherapy, education, management, and various fields of work closely related to human relationships.