《中年之路2》内容简介

　　在前作《中年之路：人格的第二次成型》中，作者一语道破了中年危机的实质：它不是一个年龄事件，而是一种心理体验，源于我们一直以来为了迎合他人期望所扮演的“临时人格”，与我们内心的真实需求发生了猛烈的冲突。犹如一场心理上的地震，中年之路的出现为我们提供了审视自己、开始改变的机会。但是踏上中年之路、已然听见内心召唤的我们，为什么发现“做自己”依旧这么难?

　　这本续作给出了问题的答案：中年的无力感，源于童年时期形成的情结，那是自我还太则小、不足以抵抗外部威胁时形成的心理防御方式。创伤出现得越早，防御手段就会越系统化，情结的力量就会越大。每当我们感受到类似的创伤体验，情结就会被激活，它像嵌在我们“大脑主机”中的自动化程序，把我们局限在孩童式的视野和反应中。原始创伤最糟糕的后果是它扭曲了人的自我感，并造成一种无意识的冲动，让我们在日后一次次地重演创伤关系。

　　于是，想要改变的力量和过往经历的束缚互相拉扯，自我想要呐喊，却无力表达。抑郁、焦虑、内疚、强迫、孤独、愤怒……中年之路上遍布灵魂的沼泽地。穿越，指的不仅仅是在沼泽中坚持住，直至瘴气散尽；还意味着把每片沼泽都视作待解的命题：我的抑郁意味着什么？焦虑与我的哪些过往经历有关联?是什么在支配我、控制我?这种态度会让我们主动地面对痛苦，而不是一味地被动忍受，借由穿越沼泽，打破原始恐惧对我们持续了半生的钳制。

　　我们做的最伤害自己的事情，就是被创伤困住，却还要责怪自己。以一颗还未长大的心，活在成年人的世界里，是极为不容易的。推翻童年的暴政，解开前半生的束缚，是在人生中途，我们必须完成的事情。

　　作者简介

　　詹姆斯·霍利斯（JamesHollis）

　　荣格派著名心理学家、心理分析师、畅销书作家。曾于瑞士苏黎世荣格研究所接受长达5年的专业培训，深耕中年人群心理咨询，拥有丰富的个案积累。曾长期担任得克萨斯州休斯敦荣格教育中心执行理事，其后又担任华盛顿荣格协会执行董事直至2019年。

　　如今，他是华盛顿荣格协会理事会成员，跨区域荣格分析师协会的退休高级培训分析师，费城荣格研究所第一任培训主任，菲利蒙基金会名誉副主席。此外，他还是美国著名研究生院赛布鲁克大学负责荣格研究领域的教授。著有《在后半生寻找意义：如何真正地成长》《过被审视的生活：人生后半程的智慧》《中年之路：人格的第二次转型》等作品。其中《中年之路》中文版在出版首年内多次加印，并连续三个月稳居豆瓣一周热门科学新知榜。

Introduction to the Middle Age Road 2

In his previous book, The Midlife Road: The Second Shaping of the Personality, the author laid out the essence of the midlife crisis: it is not an age event, but a psychological experience, stemming from the "temporary personality" we have been playing to meet the expectations of others, and our real needs are in violent conflict. Like a psychological earthquake, the emergence of midlife provides us with the opportunity to look at ourselves and begin to change. But for those of us who have embarked on the road of middle age and already heard the call of our hearts, why do we find it so difficult to "be ourselves"?

This sequel provides an answer to the question: the powerlessness of middle age stems from the complex formed in childhood, the psychological defense formed when the self is too small to resist external threats. The earlier the trauma, the more systematic the defenses, the greater the power of the complex. Whenever we experience similar traumatic experiences, complexes are activated, like automated programs embedded in our "brain mainframe," confining us to childlike visions and reactions. The worst consequence of the original trauma is that it distorts a person's sense of self and creates an unconscious urge to relive the traumatic relationship over and over again in the future.

As a result, the power to change and the constraints of past experience pull each other, and the ego wants to shout, but is unable to express. Depression, anxiety, guilt, compulsion, loneliness, anger... The road to middle age is a swamp of souls. Crossing is not just holding out in a swamp until the miasma clears; It also means treating every swamp as a proposition to be solved: What does my depression mean? What past experiences does anxiety relate to? What is dominating me, controlling me? This attitude will allow us to actively face pain rather than passively endure it, and by crossing the swamp, break the grip that primal fear has held on us for half a lifetime.

The most hurtful thing we can do is to get stuck in trauma and blame ourselves. It is not easy to live in an adult world with an ungrown heart. To overthrow the tyranny of childhood, to unshackle the first half of life, is what we must accomplish in the middle of life.

About the author

JamesHollis

Famous Jungian psychologist, psychoanalyst and best-selling author. He has received five years of professional training in the Junger Institute in Zurich, Switzerland, and has been deeply engaged in psychological counseling for middle-aged people, and has accumulated a wealth of cases. He was the executive Director of the Jungian Center for Education in Houston, Texas, and was the executive Director of the Jungian Society in Washington until 2019.

Today, he is a board member of the Jungian Society in Washington, a retired Senior Training Analyst with the Interregional Jungian Analysts Association, the first Director of Training at the Jungian Institute in Philadelphia, and Vice President Emeritus of the Philemon Foundation. He is also a professor of Jungian studies at Saybrook University, a prestigious graduate school in the United States. He is the author of Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Truly Grow, Living a Life Under Scrutiny: Wisdom for the Second Half of Life, and The Road to Midlife: The Second Transformation of Personality. Among them, the Chinese version of the Road to Middle Age was reprinted several times in the first year of publication, and was ranked on Douban's weekly hot science list for three consecutive months.